As We Get Older
A friend of mine has a nephew who was demonstrating at‐risk behavior. In search of a solution, the worried parents made multiple calls to numerous people. They tried reasoning with
Where Do I Belong in the Frum Community?
They aren’t “off the Derech”; they’re just not sure in which direction to turn.
THE PUPPET’S MASTER
Parents believe that since they are the parents, it’s their responsibility to be the leaders in the efforts to help their children grow.
Understanding & Responding to Angry, but Otherwise Wonderful, Children
Some parents never really speak to their child. Instead they talk to themselves out loud.
Talking to Guys / Talking to Girls
Too often what began as a close friendship continues to a self-serving and degrading one.
Hollow Children
Accomplishing without fun wears a person out. Fun without accomplishing makes a hollow, and therefore unhappy, person.
Is it Better to Know?
Before parents decide to monitor what their children are doing, they should ask themselves what they’ll do with the information. They frequently can't do anything with it. If that’s the
Sincerity Shows
Nevertheless, once people believe that they acted as they were supposed to, they shouldn’t worry too much about what others will think of them.
What is There to Live For?
I think the secret to enjoying life is to approach it from the inside, not the outside.
Dear Son…
Letters work because the nature of people is to immediately reject spoken suggestions that make them uncomfortable.
When Your Child Gives Up
They may act depressed, but their sadness is caused by practical reasons and is not rooted in a chemical imbalance.
Living with Difficult Siblings
If the siblings were to be allowed onto the “parents’ team”, and also be acknowledged as victims, they would better accept the situation.
The Dynamics Involved in Helping Someone Change
Exposing them to healthy people offers them an alternative way to see their personal world.
Speaking to Someone Who Doesn’t Believe
I would focus on promoting self-reflection within them; asking them to get in touch with, not their superficial thoughts, but their deeply buried thoughts. I also would not focus on
Digging Out of a Rut
When we feel accomplished we feel good about ourselves. When we feel good about ourselves we become more tolerant and accepting of others.
Keeping Strong and Focused
It is said that parents caring for their child should be a part of the problem and not of the solution.
A Quick Guide to “Coming Home”
The nature of man is to be affected by loneliness. Some people feel it within; others feel it only on the outside
“Hashem Said So. So What?!”
The child described is normal and requires normal emotional outlets. Yet these outlets are often unavailable. The teenager feels there is no one to confide in and, being good, is
Unhappy & Doing Something About It
People become very frustrated when they feel that they have been singled out by Teachers, students and even Hashem to suffer. If they’d accept that their difficulties, although painful, are
Today’s Teenagers, Without Boundaries
I believe that part of this “boundary problem” is our exposure to the outside world, in which being a free thinker is considered praiseworthy. This is in stark contrast to
Mutual Understanding for Those Who Have Been Hurt
BY RABBI SHMUEL GLUCK This article is not in response to a letter but to a discussion I had with a girl regarding her attitudes towards people, specifically adults. These
The Difference Between Unwilling and Unable
The effect parents have on their children is very powerful, forming what their children will define as being the norm (even if it’s far from the norm), and those definitions